The last few days and week or so, I have been fascinated with documentaries on a topic that everyone doesn’t want to talk about or consider it, cause it taboo and that is, Suicides.
From all the videos I seen and articles I have read, I have learned that even though there are numbers to calls and support groups, there are no real understanding or education on the matter. We know the root of the cause of why someone would want to hurt themselves like this. Usually the reasons are what everyone faces at some point in their lives, no matter what social background you come from. It ranges from, having a lot a bad things happening to you at once, abuse, bullying, money situations, anxiety, painful break-ups, or just feeling out-of-place to where you believe no one wants you around or would miss you if your gone. We live in a society that is so cruel and harsh. Some people have a hard time keeping their eye on hope and the light at the end of a very long dark tunnel.
I watched a few videos on the aftermath of someone committing suicide. An in each video, family members and friends all question their last conversations and actions with that person. Which left them all asking, “why?!” “How come he/she didn’t come to me for help??”, “Why didn’t I see the signs??”. It’s heart breaking to watch really. Specially if they never left a suicide note or given anyone a clue on whats going on with them. Which lead me to honestly look at my close friends and family members closer and I ask myself, “are they truly happy?” “is that smile real?”. Everyone goes through hard time, everyone. It really has gotten me too remind people if they need me for anything, even just to talk, they can call me day or night.
After watching a videos on YouTube, I read a few comments below and everyone had their own opinions and thoughts on the matter and I felt like I needed to add something, and here is what I posted.
“Everyone has their opinion, thoughts and feelings on this topic. No one is right or wrong with what they think and feel about suicide. Personally, I am the type of person who loves to help others. An when thinking about how I could help someone who has such pain and depression, its hard to think of ways to help. How can we help someone who feels suicidal when we can’t understand HOW they are feeling? We can talk about how there is more to life, there are good things in life, etc. To them, most of the time, all they hear is blah blah blah. Cause they been trying to get people for a long time see they are screaming for help but ignore them, and sadly, it is what adds fuel to their suicidal thoughts. I keep telling myself, I can’t help everyone or make everyone happy. All I can do is, let a PROFESSIONAL know and let them take it from there. Besides, thinking about it some more, I can also understand from the family and friends of those who took their own life point of view.
Hell, maybe, I can understand from both sides of it all, but all I know is I am one person making the best of this life I have one day at a time. Overall, if you know someone who is alone, sad, depressed, talking about death in general, anti-social, be there for them as much as you can, day or night. Be their ear, shoulder and if you can, be their ride to seeing a professional. An don’t think just because they are laughing and smiling a lot that they are truly happy either. Cause just like saying goes, “don’t judge a book by its cover”, a lot of times it’s their way of protecting you from their issues. Look for the small signs and really let them know you are there for them. Most of all, don’t ignore them.
I wish everyone love, peace and happiness. :)”
I also read a few comments that were bashing the person for killing themselves. Calling them cowards and losers, or that they are going to hell for killing themselves. It kind of angered me. They have the right to their opinions, so I kept quiet. Just how can one show such negativity and judgment to a situation they don’t clearly understand or been through. My mind is all over the place on this topic and it comes at a point in my life where I am looking to make a difference in a person’s life. What got me to research a bit more and watch documentaries on suicides, I watched two videos which brought tears to my eyes. If you are interested in watching these documentaries, the first video you have to watch is on “The Bridge” on YouTube. It’s about an hour long, but it’s moving but can be a little disturbing. But it’s the brutal truth. The second, “Suicide Forest in Japan”. To me, it shows that society just pushes you to the edge. I mean, in Japan, they have a booklet on HOW TO KILL YOURSELF. Not joking.
The world needs to wake up. Open their eyes and talk about this. There are people out their needing our help, but are so ashamed and embarrassed to open up and talk, cause we make them feel like out casts. We make them feel worse by brushing off their issues or ignoring them. STOP! Open your eyes, if you see someone depressed or suicidal… HELP THEM! Even if all you can do is listen, then listen! In some cases, all they want is someone to listen to them, and it usually is their personal first step to healing.
I am going to end this here. I will pick this up again next time. I am going to do more research and find ways to make myself available to help others who are at the point of ending their life.
To be continued…